Do you feel Lost at Sea?  Is your Relationship Sinking?
"Coach Judi" to the Rescue!

You Have Waited Long Enough to be Happy

Don't Change! Be Who You REALLY Are!

Get a Life!

"Men and Women are BOTH from Earth,
So Now We Can Talk"

Until now, men and women speaking two different languages caused many problems. Learn to speak the same language and build a healthy, successful relationship.

  • Has Life Much More to Offer You? YES!
  • Do You Deserve Love, Intimacy, *Connection*? YES!
  • Can You Have Happiness, Success, Opportunity, Fun? YES!
  • Should You be In-Charge and Confident? YES! 
  • Can I Help You Achieve All of this and More—Quickly and Concisely? YES!
            HELP!  I'm lost. Please rescue me!
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People think they have to "Change" in order to find happiness. I say, "Not true!"  We DON'T need to "change." We need to "Unchange," to be who we Really are, which means that first we must find out who we REALLY are. Something very unfortunate happened to America during our Industrial Revolution which set in motion some negative influences which have had damaging effects on the relationships between men and woman even since. We all have paid a huge price which has resulted in the breakdown of families and society at large. Because of that profoundly negative event in our cultural history, we have been changed in very painful ways. Because of that, most of us have no idea of who we really are, and, because of that, most of us are in pain—as few of us are able to attain the happiness and fulfillment which rightfully belongs to us.

The whole idea is to UNCHANGE the negative effects of what was never our choice in the first place and go back to who we REALLY are. Cultural lies have made us "Change" from "who we really are" and reshape ourselves to conform to what is so much a violation to our needs that we are in pain in ways we cannot identify and in places within us which hurt so much that, in our attempts to relieve the pain, we have all developed attitudes and behaviors which take us AWAY from happiness and fulfillment instead of "toward" it.  Who we really are is buried deeply inside behind many thick walls.  We CANNOT live successfully as "who we are not," so we must go through a process of "rediscovery" to find "who we really are," our "Personal-Self," and then catch up on the education which was denied us.

Culturally, we were denied the LANGUAGE and the SOCIAL SKILLS which we need to get along compatibly with ourselves and others. Women are NOT from "Venus" and men are NOT from "Mars." There is a very logical reason why we all ended up dysfunctionally and disharmoniously at odds with each other as genders. It's not supposed to be this way by Natural Law. We are supposed to speak the SAME language and understand one another perfectly so that we can work smoothly and cooperatively as partners in life bringing one successful generation after another into this world to keep our species fit enough to keep surviving along with our culture in America. Look at the destruction of the American Family and the break-down of our cultural values in America. Look at crime and drugs and the fact that, with all the experts trying so hard to improve things, they are only getting worse. Ask yourself if maybe someone hasn't missed the answers somewhere along the line.

Well, in my research, I believe that I have found the answers, and I have been teaching as many people as I can in private sessions and in groups. I have done it long enough to be convinced of the effective help I have been able to offer with this educational program which I have developed. None of us is a "bad guy" or at "fault." We are all victims of what happened way before we were even born. We don't need to CHANGE in the traditional sense to find happiness. We have to LEARN what happened and what to do about it. We can CHANGE what we know and believe and then our attitudes will automatically change.. and with attitude changes, automatically come changes in behavior. But the final goal is to "UNCHANGE" us from the "who we are not" and help to restore us back to who we really are and then pick up from there by the education of personal and cultural language, coping skills, and social skills so we can be "who we really" are with ourselves and others. Only then can we find the love and intimacy and touching, the denial of which has starved us, and which we are craving —so we can be happy and fulfilled in life.

Through my vast personal and professional experience, and the very exciting research I have accomplished, I have developed unique educational models to teach and give the tools which you will not find elsewhere. I have no need to write my book; I prefer to teach and allow the book to remain alive and growing as I teach and those I teach share their knowledge with others. 

No matter what your problems or goals, I am very confident that I have answers and strategies to help you quickly and concisely find your personal happiness and success in life. Please call me and we can arrange a private one-on-one session, couples or family session, group, workshop, or seminar for both personal empowerment or empowerment in the workplace. 

"Coach Judi" Stifel
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Achieve Personal Happiness & Success by Understanding "Inner Personal-Self"  

Newly-Discovered Concepts Never Understood Before

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• Couples and Family Coaching & Crisis Intervention

• Pre-Marital & Pre-Divorce Coaching/Negotiating

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"Men and Women are BOTH from Earth
So Now We Can Talk"

Discover your Unknown Strengths and Fall in Love with Yourself
There are NO "Bad Guys," no "Faults,"  no "Guilts," no "Shoulds or Shouldn'ts"
We will be ONLY searching for the Strengths/Positives NOT Weaknesses/Negatives!
The Healing Process Begins as soon as you Put Your Feet on the Path...
Waste no more of your Life. The Puzzle was missing many pieces until now.
The Completed Puzzle Explains You and Me and All of Our Relationships

Be amazed at how Logical, Obvious, Simple the Answers are!
Love is NOT only for the "Lucky and Strong," but you need to take the first step!

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"Love - The Prophet"
Kahlil Gibran

  When love beckons to you follow him,
  Though his ways are hard and steep.
  And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
  Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you. 
  And when he speaks to you believe in him,
  Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.
  For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you.
  Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
  Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
  So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.
  Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
  He threshes you to make you naked.
  He sifts you to free you from your husks.
  He grinds you to whiteness. He kneads you until you are pliant;
  And then he assigns you to his sacred fire,
  that you may become sacred bread for God's sacred feast.
  All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart,
  and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life's heart.

  But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,
  Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,
  Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter,
  and weep, but not all of your tears.
  Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
  Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
  For love is sufficient unto love.
  When you love you should not say, "God is in my heart," but rather, I am in the heart of God."
  And think not you can direct the course of love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
  Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.

  But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
  To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
  To know the pain of too much tenderness.
  To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
  And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
  To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
  To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
  To return home at eventide with gratitude;
  And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.

"Coach Judi"
Stifel, Life Coach, Relationship & Business Coach
Self-Empowerment • Confidence • Strategies for Success
Pre & Post Employment Testing & Employee Efficiency Coaching

Personal-Self Quest • Relationships Negotiating
Life Skills • Academic Coaching • Mentoring

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